I came to Be Nourished because it was obvious that my old way of doing things wasn’t working. Although I had quit dieting about two years before and tried to focus on a way of living that was more body positive, it wasn’t working. I felt like I needed support.
Much of my weight gain and general lack of health came from years of depression and eating to stuff my feelings. Because of the work I had done before, I was aware of this, but felt completely incapable of doing anything about it! One of the things that surprised me about the process was just how little hope I had in ever being able to change. And that kept coming back during the class – I had to deal with it over and over again.
One thing that I would say to someone who is just starting is that it isn’t easy. You’ll need to be patient. Don’t come into No More Weighting like we often do with diets – excited, sure that this is going to be the magic bullet and (even though NMW doesn’t focus on weight loss) hoping we’ll be thin in no time. Please don’t be discouraged by my saying this. The class is well worth it, but it can be difficult and changes don’t happen overnight, certainly not during a six week course. The process is your own, and yes, you may gain weight. I did, but once I got the hang of things, it started coming off again. So don’t panic. Stick with your process and be gentle with yourself.
The one phrase I keep repeating to myself over and over again is, “weight-neutral body care.” I want to take good care of my body – this poor body that I’ve been abusing for 45 years, when she’s been so faithful and strong. I’m learning to focus on my physical and mental health and to make small changes I feel good about: switching out ice cream for fruit when my sweet tooth is raging, and going back to dancing and hiking instead of trying to make myself go to a gym. It’s amazing how just one small victory can make me feel so powerful. Focusing on those positive changes keeps me from giving up.
I like this quote from The Neverending Story, by Michael Ende (edited for length):
“I did everything wrong,” he said. “I misunderstood everything…”
Dame Eyola gave him a long look. “No,” she said. “I don’t believe so. You went the way of wishes, and that is never straight. You went the long way around, but that was your way.”
After a short silence she added: “But every way that leads there is the right one.”